I have never been one for New Year’s resolutions. They have always struck me as mechanical and contrived, doomed to failure. Far better to adopt a general guideline for life, a path from which you will inevitably err but to which you can later return. In fact, deviation is arguably essential, in so far as it allows you to evaluate your guideline from another perspective – to learn by doing, rather than merely observing, whence the proverb once bitten, twice shy (in German ein gebranntes Kind scheut das Feuer – “the burned child distrusts the fire”). Or perhaps we all just need to let our hair down once in a while, as neatly encapsulated in Oscar Wilde’s riff on Socrates’ maxim: “everything in moderation, including moderation.” Now there is an idea I can get on board with.
The author left his desk to devour half a white baguette slathered with gooey Camembert.
The author returned to his desk.
Ahem. The question of moderation occupied the minds of other Greek philosophers: Aristotle argued that excellence lay midway between excess and deficiency. It is also deeply rooted in religion: as any good Christian will tell you, strait is the gate and narrow is the way that leads to life, and broad is the way that leads to perdition (Matthew, 7:13-14); while for Buddhists, the path to enlightenment is the middle way between ascetism and indulgence. No wonder, then, that our language is peppered with phrases to do with balance: astronomers are busy scouring the known universe for other Goldilocks planets, where conditions are ‘just right’ to support life; and the honest and decent among us are trying to keep on the straight and narrow (a misquotation of Matthew, 7:13, mentioned above, but now widely accepted as standard spelling).
Anyway, to my great irritation, Socrates’ words resonate with me. All things in moderation, sure, but Ancient Athenians never faced such titans as HBO box sets and dark chocolate Hobnobs, did they? (Incidentally, to hobnob comes from 18th century English “to hob or nob”, meaning to drink to one another, and ultimately from Old English habban – “to have” – and nabban – “not to have”.) When I inevitably succumb to those modern vices, I feel great for a couple of hours, or a whole day if I’m lucky, but then sloth and torpor set in, and I feel drawn back to the middle way.
And herein, after much waffle (mmm, waffles…), lies my point: whatever your guideline for life, it must come from within, not from without. So scrap your New Year’s resolutions. Break your shackles. Err from your path and then feel the pull back towards it. Not because you ‘should’, but because (brace yourselves, fans of The Mandalorian…) this is the way. Or, as French viewers would have it, telle est la voie.